The whippersnapper has decided that he is done with schedules. Done, done, done, done, done, diddly-diddly-done. We had a good thing going for awhile: 5:20 he'd wake up, breakfast at 6:30, nap at 7:30, snack at 10, nap at 12, lunch at 1, nap at 3, dinner at 5:30, bed by 7. Bim-bam-boom, goodnight. It was lovely, it was predictable, and most importantly, it gave me some much needed down time. But someone - I'm not saying whom - decided to hell with all that. I've done my damndest to stick to the routine but when you've got a kid screaming because he REFUSED breakfast (or worse, a nap) good luck trying to keep the critter at bay. I read Baby Wise. I know I'm supposed to hold him off until the next appointed feeding/sleep time but I just don't have it in me. Plus the kid is growing like a weed (according to yesterday's Well Baby visit, height-wise he's gone from the 25th percentile to the 95th in less than 3 months). Who am I to say that he isn't hungry? It's just frustrating trying to find the balance between steering the ship and remembering that your kid is a person too. (JUST LET ME STEER THE SHIP!) That said, I'm actively trying to release the reins. Bottom line, I can't force the kid to go to sleep just because I want him to. I can't make him eat just because the clock says it's time. Whenever I start to get really panicky about it (But the books say...) I remember what my mom said when I asked about my baby schedule -
"I fed you when you were hungry and put you to bed when you seemed tired. We rocked you or drove you around the block or stuck a bottle in your mouth until you went to sleep. You got up when you woke up. There was no such thing as 'Cry It Out' because everybody was doing the same thing to get their kid to go to sleep! "
You know what I want for Christmas? A reassuring book. A book that says, "You know what? You're doing a fine job. It's perfectly okay that you're still rocking your baby to sleep at 9 months because you know what? It's not going to last. Enjoy that head on your shoulder and that warm little body against your chest because pretty soon he's going to go back to falling asleep on his own just like he did before this obnoxious sleep regression because bottom line, nobody goes to college still needing to be rocked to sleep. It's also fine that some days he refuses to settle and takes one nap instead of three or eats slightly earlier than he usually does because you have an important audition to go to and it's okay that you sometimes check your email while he's playing and claim he's "learning to play independently", because no matter what you do or don't do it's all going to come out in the wash. As long as you love your kid and pay attention to him and encourage him and try to keep his best interests in mind, and as long as you're not beating or berating or having sex with your child, chances are you're doing a great job." Where's that freaking book? Because it would sell like gold.