tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1231338732382840143.post9085345270820005020..comments2024-03-18T04:15:50.676-04:00Comments on Flabbypants: They also mentioned becoming a book publishing professional...Alihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10278842338463861715noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1231338732382840143.post-37202296769130339672008-10-22T06:56:00.000-04:002008-10-22T06:56:00.000-04:00I love empathy. And I hear ya - except for the pa...I love empathy. And I hear ya - except for the part about the errands not getting done now that you're back at work. Heck, my errands don't get done NOW!Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10278842338463861715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1231338732382840143.post-52766400246296200912008-10-22T00:21:00.000-04:002008-10-22T00:21:00.000-04:00Hi Alisha--I'm no longer an at-home mom, but I...Hi Alisha--I'm no longer an at-home mom, but I was for eight years (just went back to work last August). Yes, I totally felt guilty sometimes. But, like you, I was (and am) working for low wages and can't find anything that pays more in this town, so it really wouldn't have made sense to try to pay childcare for two kids. I would have been working for about $10 a day. Last year, Dinah was in daycare & preschool and I was still working for almost nothing, but basically did it b/c I knew it would be a good job for me once they were both in school, and those jobs don't come open that often (I'm a teacher's aide at the girls' school, so we have the same schedule). <BR/><BR/>I did feel bad about it, and sometimes my DH would make comments about it that were hurtful like "if you'd ever start pulling your own weight around here" but other times he'd say how glad he was that I was home with the kids, that we weren't dealing with the constant daycare nightmares that our friends were, that he never had to worry about picking the kids up from school/rec classes/dance/whatever, and that I took care of waiting for repairmen to show up, taking the cars to the shop, running all errands, cooking and most of the housework.<BR/><BR/>Now that I'm back to work, we both miss some things about my being home (I obviously miss it a lot more than he does). But now, we take turns staying home with sick kids, he has to pitch in more around the house, and the errands just almost never get done.<BR/><BR/>On the plus side, I do feel a lot less guilty about taking off for Wichita with my girlfriends once in a while, or buying new clothes or shoes for myself than I did when I was home. I loved that time and I'm glad I did it, but in our culture, it's so hard to remember that we are doing an important job that is worth something when we parent our children, even if we're not getting paid for it. It was a constant struggle for me. <BR/><BR/>I'm sure this wasn't helpful at all--no solutions, just empathy! Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1231338732382840143.post-75215664799942937412008-10-19T20:13:00.000-04:002008-10-19T20:13:00.000-04:00You can totally take it online - just google "Prin...You can totally take it online - just google "Princeton Review Career Quiz". I'd be curious if you felt like it helped...Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10278842338463861715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1231338732382840143.post-32472914825357034862008-10-19T17:18:00.000-04:002008-10-19T17:18:00.000-04:00I'm with you on the guilty thing, though it's less...I'm with you on the guilty thing, though it's less about his feelings than mine--I worked hard to get into my extremely low-paying, horrible schedule job, and I miss it tremendously (even as I'm relieved not to deal with the politics and the heavy lifting). Is the quiz online, and may I take it, too?Victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00288623705367339236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1231338732382840143.post-47718223282346069932008-10-18T20:49:00.000-04:002008-10-18T20:49:00.000-04:00As someone who's been working on a book for almost...As someone who's been working on a book for almost two years now and is still on Chapter 1, I can safely say it don't come easy...<BR/><BR/>What, no antiques dealer?Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10278842338463861715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1231338732382840143.post-40548167358606802582008-10-18T17:32:00.001-04:002008-10-18T17:32:00.001-04:00Or as easily as a book comes I guess. Which really...Or as easily as a book comes I guess. Which really probably isn't that easy....Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08053954608332662629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1231338732382840143.post-92024649024995447222008-10-18T17:32:00.000-04:002008-10-18T17:32:00.000-04:00Book Publishing Professional. That sounds kind of ...Book Publishing Professional. That sounds kind of fun. Maybe you should look in to that. Or write a book based on your first year as mother. I think that book would come easily. Could go fiction or non-fiction route.Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08053954608332662629noreply@blogger.com