tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1231338732382840143.post757941619389010058..comments2024-03-18T04:15:50.676-04:00Comments on Flabbypants: The one where I traumatize my kidAlihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10278842338463861715noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1231338732382840143.post-41037871051716548142011-04-26T09:22:15.358-04:002011-04-26T09:22:15.358-04:00I like blankies and I even like pacifiers and thum...I like blankies and I even like pacifiers and thumbs, so I know I'm at one end of the spectrum, but I say: Don't take it away. I wouldn't let him take it to school, but that's mostly because it will get lost/germy/blahblah. But really? What's the harm? At some point he won't want it anymore; if you take it away now you're creating a battle and increasing the need/anxiety, instead of letting him stop needing it on his own. Meanwhile it helps. Three is really young, still. <br /><br />About a year ago we were going away for a weekend and I asked my then 9 y.o. son whether he wanted me to pack He looked at me like, "Dude, naw." I don't think he'd be thrilled if I threw Seuss away, though, yk?Merhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12703301280433272870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1231338732382840143.post-82038421592294375052011-04-15T09:06:21.490-04:002011-04-15T09:06:21.490-04:00Since it is a blankie and not a pacifier, I say go...Since it is a blankie and not a pacifier, I say go with your instinct and let it go for now.<br />Both of my girls had lovies well past 3. #2 still has to have her beloved Snowbear at bedtime, and she plays with it frequently too, and she is 10.<br />However you may in the somewhat sort of near future start putting the kibosh on having the blankie in his mouth.<br />Let me share my experience with something similar...<br />#2 was a thumb-sucker. We never made a big deal out of it and worked on the assumption that she would give it up on her own when she was ready. We did put limits on it once preschool started and upped the limits each year of preschool so that by the time she was pre-K thumb was only allowed at home. Again we thought once the limits were in place she would let go of it soon.<br />Wrong.<br />Cue FIRST GRADE. She is still sucking her thumb, and does not want to go to a sleepover party because she is embarassed about it. That is when her therapist mama said, "Uh-oh, we have something that is interfering with social functioning. Time to act." So we started a reward program to help her give up the thumb. It was far easier than I thought it would be, and she gave it up quicker than we had planned through the reward system. So with a that good ol' 20-20 hindsight I realized that it wasn't that she wasn't ready, but perhaps more that she just didn't know HOW to give it up. Now of course there was sadness and fear about giving up that long term source of comfort, but it was outweighed by the pride in being thumb-sucking free. <br />So there is my two-cents. Let it go, but not tooooo long!Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08053954608332662629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1231338732382840143.post-12606425524660524302011-04-14T15:14:02.862-04:002011-04-14T15:14:02.862-04:00Does he take to school? I would discourage him fr...Does he take to school? I would discourage him from taking it to school, but I wouldn't take it away from him otherwise; he'll grow out of it. My 28-month old son, who used to be obsessed with first arranging and them sleeping on top of 6 t-shirts with pictures of sports balls (volley/base/soccer/basket), until I got him a blanket with all those balls pictured on it, has cultivated a rotating attachment to different toys and books. Now that he is in a toddler bed (necessitated by a late night vault over the side of his crib - damn, thought I had an inch in height to go before that was a problem) and he no longer merely sleeps - now he NESTS. I go in after he is sleeping and pull out sports balls, sports ball-shaped pillows, toy cars, toy planes, books, books shaped like cars with working wheels, stuffed animals, extra blankets and squeezy bath toys shaped like Cars characters.Peytonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00418158426238323517noreply@blogger.com